Why Do I Feel Guilty for Wanting More Than Just Being a Mom?
Why Do I Feel Guilty for Wanting More Than Just Being a Mom? What That Guilt Is Really Trying to Tell You
Let me be real with you, mama — I’ve cried on the bathroom floor more times than I can count, asking myself, “Is it selfish to want more?”
More than diapers. More than lunchboxes. More than being a damn good mom.
But here’s the truth I had to learn (and that I teach inside Messy to Millions):
Wanting more doesn’t make you ungrateful. It makes you honest.
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1. Society Grooms Women to Sacrifice, Then Shames Them When They Want Out.
From a young age, women are taught to pour out, not fill up. According to Pew Research, 78% of mothers feel solely responsible for the emotional well-being of their families.
So when you start craving your own dream? Your own money? Your own purpose? The guilt creeps in.
"You’ve been programmed to feel guilty for prioritizing yourself — not because it’s wrong, but because it’s revolutionary."
2. Your Identity Is Not Just “Mom” — It’s Woman, Leader, Creator.
Inside my book Messy to Millions, I share how I used to feel like a failure for wanting time away from my daughter to build my brand.
I thought ambition made me a bad mom.
But guess what? That brand? That business?
It showed my girls what’s possible when a woman chooses herself.
You don’t lose your motherhood by building more.
You expand your legacy.
3. Guilt Is Often a Sign of Growth — Not Wrongdoing.
One of the most powerful moments in the Messy to Millions Workshop was when a mom whispered, “I feel like I’m abandoning my kids when I show up online.”
We unpacked it.
And what we found underneath was the belief that ambition equals absence.
But presence is about quality, not quantity. Your kids don’t need all of your time — they need the most lit-up version of you.
4. You’re Allowed to Want More AND Love Your Kids Fiercely.
This isn’t either/or.
You can be obsessed with bedtime snuggles and also want to scale to six figures.
You can pack lunches and write launch copy.
You can cry on Zoom and still crush your goals.
Ambition and motherhood are not enemies. They’re a legacy in motion.
5. Your Dreams Are Proof to the Next Generation.
If your daughter came to you and said, “I want more than just this,” would you shame her?
Or would you tell her to go for it?
Your business isn’t taking away from your motherhood.
It’s modeling permission.
Here’s What to Do Next:
You don’t need to silence your dreams to prove your love.
You don’t need to choose between diapers and destiny.
You just need a room full of women who get it.
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You’re not selfish, sis.
You’re just waking up to your power. And it’s time.
xo, Marina
